BDSM Test

Ethan and I have been in the BDSM lifestyle for close to two years now, and I still consider us amateurs. After receiving some feedback from my readers I realized that I mistakenly made the assumption that everyone was a little curious about kink like we were when we first started, I was also made aware that BDSM comes across as very big and scary to those that have never experienced it. Maybe you are one that hears the four letter acronym and you automatically assume its a bunch of social misfits who get sexual gratification through pain and humiliation, this assumption is far from being true.


For me personally, I am BDSM-flexible...yes I just made up that word, I have yet to discover my boundaries and the great thing is, I may never. There is a test online that will help you discover what kind of sexual deviant (if any) you truly are. I will take the test and run through my findings, I add definitions of terms and add my own opinion of the results. If you decide to take the test you can find it at www.bdsmtest.org I recommend you answer each question honestly in order to discover your true kink. If you think you are a dom and answer the questions like you expect a dom would you may never discover what really fulfills you.




My results are as follows


100% Switch.

A switch is a person that likes to be both dominant and submissive. This dynamic and be with one partner or they can be always submissive to one person and always dominant with another.

This is 100% accurate for me, I don’t consider myself fully dominant or fully submissive, I limit my switch play to strictly bedroom fun, however Ethan has started to push this boundary when he is in Dom mode.


98% Brat.

A brat is a playful, sometimes naughty submissive. They like to disobey their dominants but accept that punishment or corrections is a natural consequence of their actions.

Ethan has always called me a brat, the reason I call our time together “play” is because it is intended to be playful, I like being cheeky, I like to push his buttons, make him earn it or push him till he takes it.


98% Brat tamer

Brat tamers enjoy handling naughty submissives, they get pleasure from getting their brats to submit either through punishments or behavioral corrections.

I have taken this questionnaire multiple times throughout the years, many years prior to being active within the community and brat tamer never emerged. But as we have been in the community for a while and I have experienced push back from Ethan I have noticed that I do enjoy when he gives me an excuse to punish him.


89% Voyeur

Voyeurs enjoy watching sexual activity or nakedness, the extent or style of voyeurism will vary from person to person.

This is 100% accurate for me, I love to watch. Voyeur porn is my favorite genre of pornography, especially when they pretend its secretly recorded. In real life I would never spy on someone without prior consent. I also enjoy watching when I go to BDSM clubs, however it’s more for my intellectual curiosity watching the dynamic between partners than sexual enjoyment.


83% Primal (Prey)

Primals like to tap into their natural instincts and let their inner animal out during sex, the key part to their play in to be raw, emotional and connect during sex. Snarling growing, clawing and biting is not uncommon during this time. Preys like to be hunted and and match well with Primal Hunters.

I enjoy the thrill of the chase but I never considered myself prey. The primal result is very accurate, I love the rawness and intimacy that comes from being vulnerable, and having my boundaries pushed. I’m all about letting go off my body hang ups, the stresses of the day and just setting my mind free.


83% Boy/Girl

Boy/Girls is also known as littles like to have an innocence, curiosity and more of a submissive spirit. They pair well with nurturing loving parental role in their lives as opposed to the harder dominants. Their submissive nature can go deeper than your typical submissive.

I discussed this in a previous post, I have fantasies of playing a role younger than I am and having that nurturing but strict dominant to guide me. When I have seen littles on documentaries or TV shows, they often depict adults in diapers, oversized cribs etc. But littles can be any age, it’s all about the innocence (again releasing my mind of adult responsibilities) and having a loving environment to feel safe in.


82% Ageplayer

Age players play with age as part of their kink, this can be older or younger than their actual age. They will take on the attribute of the age of the person they want to be. This can be from babies with pacifiers and diapers to the elderly with a walking cane and geriatric style clothing.

As with the above statement, “littles” fall under the age play category so it is of no surprise to me this ranked directly below boy/girl.


80% Sadist

Sadist enjoy inflicting pain during sexual interactions.

When I am the dominant I enjoy inflicting pain, I get incredibly turned on when I watch Ethans skin welt and redden because I just administered punishment on him, I see it as a thing of beauty.


69% Master/Mistress

Masters and Mistresses are a step beyond dominants, they take complete control over their slaves lives (24/7 unless otherwise negotiated). Masters/Mistresses do not only exert control but they also assume all responsibility for their slaves and it is their responsibility for the safety of their slaves.

I personally feel this is wrong, I can see the correlation mainly because I am dominant in real life and I enjoy taking on the dom role in the bedroom but as far as being a Mistress, I do not seek or want complete control of someone else’s life.


66% Dominant

Dominants like to be in charge, they like partners that obey without question and receive pleasure through controlling their submissives, this play can be limited to the bedroom but the dynamic can also exist in daily life too.

Yes Yes Yes, but only temporarily, I want Ethan to reassert his dominance before the end of the night in order for balance to be restored. I truly am a switch but I guess you cannot be a switch without also being dominant.


63% Rope bunny

Rope bunnies enjoy being tied up or restrained during sex, this can be acheived using rope, cuffs, spreaders or chains.

The brat in me loves to be restrained, it’s part of the playfulness, sometimes when I am being too bratty the only way to punish me is to tie me down until I calm down and agree to obey.


63% Submissive

Submissives follow directions and get pleasure from giving up control to their dominants, this can be in the bedroom only but it can also be in daily life.

The other side to being a switch is being submissive.


60% Primal (Hunter)

As above (Primal) but a hunter gains pleasure from hunting or ambushing their prey.

I have never considered myself a hunter but it makes sense that since I am a switch and I am very much in touch with my inner beast. My dominant side will align with the hunter trait.


60% Vanilla

Vaniila people enjoy regular and standard sex models.

Yes, I am kinky when I’m in the mood for kinkiness. Many times I am not in the mood, sometimes I just want an orgasm so I can fall asleep, sometimes I want gentle love making, regular missionary, cowgirl, doggy style. I would say that many of the people I know in the bdsm lifestyle have vanilla sex possible the more than they have kinky sex. Ethan and I agree that bdsm only accounts for 20% of our sexual activity. But there is a bias, if we have sex 5 times in one week, 1 of those times will likely be kink play but that kink play may last longer than the 4 other times combined.


49% Non-monogamist

Non-monogamists do not believe that relationships have to exist on a 1-1 basis. There are many forms of non-monogamy which I have covered in previous posts. This can be friends with benefits situations, polyamory or consented hookups.

Ethan and I have discussed this extensively, right now we are at a time in our lives where we have some sexual needs that the other person cannot fulfill, so why shouldn’t we be free to explore these needs. We do find each other emotionally fulfilling, we have discussed that the future for us might look more monogamous as our sexual needs decrease, there will be less needs to be satisfied. With that said, living this lifestyle means we may fall for other people and we may end up in a polyamory situation.


I gave my personal opinion of my results above 50% including Non-monogamy because those items represent my true kinky side, the questionnaire asks questions covering almost every area of bdsm. Unless you answer a hard NO to certain questions the results of the others scaled down answer will show up in your end result. The result below are not items I identify with when it comes to BDSM, in fact many of those titles when you look into what they actually involve is a very quick way to get kicked out of my bedroom. For instance, I am a parent in real life and I have many stressors, I do not want a mommy role in the bedroom, it also conflicts with my littles result, even though I switch with D/s, I have zero desire to switch when it comes to age play.

I also would never entertain the option of being a slave, I have a strong need to maintain control, even though I may have some odd submissive fantasies, none of these fall into the slave category

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43% Daddy/Mommy.

The best description of a Daddy/Mommy is a dominant with a nurturing or caretaking nature. They treasure their submissives and treat them gently but firm.

42% Slave

Slaves give complete control of their lives over to their masters (with negotiated off times) All aspect of their day to day lives is controlled by their Master, rarely is there a limit on how far they will submit.

37% Exhibitionist

Exhibitionists enjoy showing off their naked bodies or sexual encounters, this can vary from consented exhitionism to enjoying the fear of being caught to complete disregard for their surroundings.

35% Degradee

Degradees like to be degraded or humiliated by their dominants, the level of degradation can be as small as being called derogatory names to being forced to do things the degradee feels is degrading.

33% Owner

Owners own pets and take care of their pets needs on a 24/7 basis. Sexuality is not necessarily involved but can incorporate animal role playing i.e cages and food bowls.

7% Masochist

Masochists enjoy receiving pain. The level of pain is dependent on the masochist tolerance level and amount of pain needed to achieve a certain level of sexual gratification.

7% Experimentalist

Experimentalists have a natural curiosity to try new things regardless of whether they think they will like it or not. They often have fantasies that they will actively attempt to play out.

6% Rigger

Riggers like to tie and/or restrain their partners, whether for sexual gratification or just for fun, they enjoy having their partners completely at their mercy.

1% Pet

Pets are the property of their owners in daily life, this does not have to be in a sexual manner. This role features some form of animal role poly.

1% Degrader

Degraders like to degrade and humiliate their play partners, either by treating them in a degrading way or forcing them to do things in a degrading way.

In conclusion, these results have confirmed what I already know about myself, I know I am a switch, I am also a brat, for a long time I suppressed my age play desires because of the negative connotations associated with age play, but being a part of the BDSM community has helped me come out of my shell and express myself in a safe non judgmental environment.

Since I am a submissive/brat with an age play component, it explains to me why I never pursued more pain in my play, sometimes when I am bad I will accept my punishment but receiving pain is not something I pursue, not being into pain does not disqualify me for the BDSM community, there is no such thing as one kink fits all and that has always been the best thing about being in this lifestyle.

How I express myself sexually is clearly separate from my day to day life. I don’t do it this way because I feel a need to separate myself, I do it because it’s how I choose to live. I have a mom hat, I have a boss hat, I have a girlfriend hat and I have my kink hat.


I encourage everyone to take the test and take it honestly. I would love to see your results and your opinion of how accurate it is. For anyone who is new to kink, this will be a great way to see where you can start your exploration.


Now go play.

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